Friday, December 16, 2011

Pain and shame, who am I without you?

Written November 21, 2010


     I wear them like a cloak.  I carry these burdens wherever I go.  They are so heavy, and I try to hide them from any on looker.  Why?  Why do I feel the need to do this?  Did it occur to me that there is a better way?  Not necessary the opposite, but a better way.  I have let pain and shame become my identity.  I know no other way to be.  As sad as it sounds, it is frightening to be anyone different.  What is it going to take to change the baggage that weighs me down, holds me back, destroying who I should be?  What will be required of me?  Will it bring catastrophic changes, changes that I cannot bear?


Who would I be without you?  Would I be free to live how I felt was right?  Would I achieve my goals, my dreams?  Would I find happiness in myself?  Will it be worth the journey?  I don’t know how to feel without you guiding my every decision, belief, and truth.  I will have to search and sort things out to find a better way.  That scares me.  What if I make a mistake that not only hurts me but those depending on me?  What then? 


Who can I put in your place?  I have no other experiences to go by.  Is it just a matter of changing the way I think and behave?  Or is it deeper than that?  


The first decision that I will make without you being my guide will be to live today, just today, being conscious of your presence, knowing how to identify you.  With practice, I will recognize you, feel you, and hear your voices.  I will totally be aware of you.  Then, I will make my next decision, whatever that will be, and however long it takes, I will find a better way.

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